So I was reading about cheating. I know that things happen in a relationship that causes another person to drift off and fall for another, who gives them the attention that they longed for that their current relationship is lacking. Although, it doesn't make it right to go behind a person's back because they are unhappy or feel unfulfilled. Why cheat? Why not just leave and stop making excuses. Must be nice when you can have your cake AND eat it too. Selfish much? People need to grow up and take responsibility for their actions.
Some things to help people out better in situations like this, read below.
Excuses are just words:
No Justification, No Simple Reasons
Why the other person cheated on you is something you may never really know for sure. There are no simple answers or reasons. There are lots of excuses given by cheaters.
You are Not to Blame (I would constantly blame myself)
If your significant other has been cheating on you, realize that you are not to blame, you are not a mind reader, and although the two of you were in the same relationship together, your partner made the decision to cheat.
People who are unfaithful are selfish. It is easier for them to cheat and to leave than it is to work on their relationship.
Don't Obsess Over Excuses
Don't obsess over the excuses you may hear from your unfaithful partner. They are just words and personal justifications for your partner's hurtful behavior.
Regardless of the reasons given for being unfaithful, the bottom line is that your significant other has cheated.
An Affair Doesn't Mean the End of a Relationship
That doesn't mean your relationship is doomed. It does mean that your relationship needs help. Whether or not your relationship can survive infidelity depends on whether or not you both are willing to seek counseling and to move forward. (It's not only one to blame, it takes two to tango).
The It's All your Fault Type of Cheating Excuses
Here are some of the "It's All Your Fault" type of cheating excuses.
I've told you for years why I was unhappy, but you decided to not do anything about it.
You work too much.
I thought you would change.
You don't listen to me.
You aren't good in bed.
You don't give me any attention.
I'm tired of having to do everything around here.
You don't need me anymore.
You put on too much weight.
You cut your hair.
You pressured me too much for sex so it wasn't fun with you anymore.
You were never really there for me when I needed you.
It has nothing to do with you.
It's not you, it's me.
I'm unhappy.
I need some space.
I really don't know what I want to do with my life.
I never cheated before but something just snapped.
I want to stand on my own two feet.
The other guys goaded me on and I didn't want to look like a sissy.
I have issues.
I don't why why I did it. It wasn't planned.
I didn't expect to get caught.
I'm having a mid-life crisis.
I'm not happy. I haven't been happy for years.
I never meant to hurt you.
It's in my nature to cheat.
It's just a guy thing.
Here are some of the "Grass is Greener" type of cheating excuses.
I need to have sex with others. I can't go the rest of my life sleeping with just you.
The sex is incredible. It was never that good with you.
I want to start a rock band and I would be gone a lot. That wouldn't be fair to you.
It's an addiction.
I can't help myself.
It doesn't mean anything.
It just happened.
He/She has an unhappy relationship, and I was filling an emotional void in his/her life.
We were just friends.
I was curious what sex with someone else would be like.
I can't keep my eyes open or think. I'm off to crash. G'night, actually Good Morning....
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